Men and women flirt differently, for different reasons and
expect different outcomes to the flirting. However, if you put aside that
outcome and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself to different opportunities.
You may well end up with a new lover but if that doesn’t work out you could
meet someone who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce
you to.
Keep your options open.
After you have exchanged glances and smiles across a room
and you are fairly confident that SHE thinks that she might like to get to know
you better, send a drink to her. But remember that ALL you are buying is a
drink. Don’t expect her to fall at your feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send
someone a drink, watch when she receives it and smile, then look away – look
back again later to show your interest.
If you find yourself invited to her table, keep you mind on
the conversation and not on getting a date with her. Most women want to know
what kind of person they are going out with long before they actually go out
with them. Make an effort to get to know her and give her the opportunity to
get to know you before diving in for a date.
Do not ever approach two women in the same group. No woman
wants to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after another in
the same group. You look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate
and looking for any port in a storm. Even if you are, don’t show it.
When you compliment a woman make certain that it is a
genuine compliment. There’s nothing worse than someone giving out a load of
overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them, notice that and
compliment them genuinely.
Do not ever put your hands on a woman uninvited. Some women
have no objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters, others are horrified by it.
Respect the person until you have had the opportunity to know more about her.
Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or
resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you know more.
Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing the reactions then moving
back a little to remove the threat.
Respect yourself at all times. Women always fall for men who
are that little bit unreachable. Don’t hover or grovel or act desperate. Think
of yourself as special and know what you deserve the very best.